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Joined: November 12, 2001
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What's the deal with your nickname? How did you get it? If your nickname is self-explanatory, then tell everyone when you first started using the internet, and what was the first thing that made you say "wow, this isn't just a place for freaks after all?" Was it a website? Was it an email from a long-lost friend? Go on, spill it.
I needed a name to use and I always liked Theora Jones on Max Headroom.
age? I wear the bottoms of my trousers rolled.
I try to keep my MeIdentity and my personal life separate because I have written things that would create conflict.
If you are considering suicide, or dealing with suicide, I recommend you read this:
Art Kleiner, in Whole Earth Review, then on the Well, now on Psyke, How Not to Commit Suicide.
Links I tend to post:
What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage
The Bra Sizing post is full of goodness and facts. Seriously, I learned a ton, and look much better dressed now. Undressed, I'm on my own.
Great book about dealing with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder, also useful for dealing with anyone who has poor boundaries, is manipulative, highly dramatic, etc. Stop Walking on Eggshells.
Authentic Happiness
Advice about depression, and some resources:
Make a list of things to do every day:
. Take a walk or get some form of exercise.
. If possible, get that exercise outdoors - nature and sunshine are good for depression.
. Take vitamin D.
. Get good nutrition.
. Make mental or written lists of good things about yourself. say one or 2 things out loud every day.
. Find something good and be grateful and/or a little bit happy about it. The sun came out. Lunch was delicious. That shower felt good.
. Know anybody with a dog or cat or other loving pet? Walking and playing with my dog gives me moments of respite.
If you don't do any of these things, no beating yourself up. Maybe you can do some of them tomorrow.
Read Allie Brosh's Adventures in Depression and Depression Part II. Read the Bloggess' Depression Lies. Sometimes I just keep them open in my browser.
MeFi Wiki There is Help.
Reddit What do you know about depression?
Reddit My Massive List of Depression Resources Part 1.
This helps me when I feel overwhelmed Everything Is Awful and I'm Not Okay. It's often open in my browser.
The Yale 'Science of Well-Being' course is free for now.
This book, Playing Ball on Running Water has helped me. It emphasis what you should be doing, despite your feelings.
Sing, if you can. Play music - music is processed differently than speech and written words, and music can give you more energy and raise your mood. Exercise without music, for me, is such drudgery.
There are good articles on Psychology Today. They often contain just a grain, but sometimes that's useful to me.
I liked this poster of How To Get Motivated. You know, in case I get energetic, inspired, all that.
I've often linked this info about marriage, so I've stashed it here:
http://www.nytimes.com/1985/04/16/science/marriage-research-reveals-ingredients-of-happiness.html
John Gottman http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Gottman has done a lot of research, and has recommendations on what makes a marriage successful. or not. http://www.gottman.com/research/
Success:
http://www.camft.org/ScriptContent/Professional_Ex/Articles/GottmanApproach.htm
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/01/08/7-research-based-principles-for-making-marriage-work/
or not:
http://www.nytimes.com/1992/08/11/science/to-predict-divorce-ask-125-questionshtml
http://www.gottmancouplesretreats.com/about/relationships-dysfunctional-divorce-predictors.aspx
http://www.andersoncooper.com/2012/04/17/dr-gottman-four-negative-patterns-that-predict-divorce/
I needed a name to use and I always liked Theora Jones on Max Headroom.
age? I wear the bottoms of my trousers rolled.
I try to keep my MeIdentity and my personal life separate because I have written things that would create conflict.
If you are considering suicide, or dealing with suicide, I recommend you read this:
Art Kleiner, in Whole Earth Review, then on the Well, now on Psyke, How Not to Commit Suicide.
Links I tend to post:
What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage
The Bra Sizing post is full of goodness and facts. Seriously, I learned a ton, and look much better dressed now. Undressed, I'm on my own.
Great book about dealing with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder, also useful for dealing with anyone who has poor boundaries, is manipulative, highly dramatic, etc. Stop Walking on Eggshells.
Authentic Happiness
Advice about depression, and some resources:
Make a list of things to do every day:
. Take a walk or get some form of exercise.
. If possible, get that exercise outdoors - nature and sunshine are good for depression.
. Take vitamin D.
. Get good nutrition.
. Make mental or written lists of good things about yourself. say one or 2 things out loud every day.
. Find something good and be grateful and/or a little bit happy about it. The sun came out. Lunch was delicious. That shower felt good.
. Know anybody with a dog or cat or other loving pet? Walking and playing with my dog gives me moments of respite.
If you don't do any of these things, no beating yourself up. Maybe you can do some of them tomorrow.
Read Allie Brosh's Adventures in Depression and Depression Part II. Read the Bloggess' Depression Lies. Sometimes I just keep them open in my browser.
MeFi Wiki There is Help.
Reddit What do you know about depression?
Reddit My Massive List of Depression Resources Part 1.
This helps me when I feel overwhelmed Everything Is Awful and I'm Not Okay. It's often open in my browser.
The Yale 'Science of Well-Being' course is free for now.
This book, Playing Ball on Running Water has helped me. It emphasis what you should be doing, despite your feelings.
Sing, if you can. Play music - music is processed differently than speech and written words, and music can give you more energy and raise your mood. Exercise without music, for me, is such drudgery.
There are good articles on Psychology Today. They often contain just a grain, but sometimes that's useful to me.
I liked this poster of How To Get Motivated. You know, in case I get energetic, inspired, all that.
I've often linked this info about marriage, so I've stashed it here:
http://www.nytimes.com/1985/04/16/science/marriage-research-reveals-ingredients-of-happiness.html
John Gottman http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Gottman has done a lot of research, and has recommendations on what makes a marriage successful. or not. http://www.gottman.com/research/
Success:
http://www.camft.org/ScriptContent/Professional_Ex/Articles/GottmanApproach.htm
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/01/08/7-research-based-principles-for-making-marriage-work/
or not:
http://www.nytimes.com/1992/08/11/science/to-predict-divorce-ask-125-questionshtml
http://www.gottmancouplesretreats.com/about/relationships-dysfunctional-divorce-predictors.aspx
http://www.andersoncooper.com/2012/04/17/dr-gottman-four-negative-patterns-that-predict-divorce/