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Seconding Zorba’s for a casual bite.

If you’re willing to go a little bit north of Dupont, Lapis, which is right between Dupont and Adams Morgan has absolutely delicious Afghan food and fantastic dessert. They would definitely qualify as 75th birthday dinner worthy. They have only a very small patio on the side so while you wouldn’t normally need to make a reservation there, if you specifically want outdoor seating I would recommend doing so. Pretty sure that we have… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 4:50 PM on June 7, 2024

Thank you for all these ideas!! I look forward to trying some!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 5:52 PM on June 3, 2024

Assisi is not terribly far by train (about 3 hours) and is strikingly pretty. Small hill town, surrounded by hills. It was where St. Francis lived and started the Franciscan order. Another interesting fact about the town is that during WWII the Catholic church in Assisi started what was called the Assisi Network in an effort to hide Jewish Italians from the nazis and Assisi’s entire Jewish population survived the war.

The region that Assisi is in, Umbria, was home to the… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 7:58 PM on June 1, 2024

I used to work as a librarian in a major metropolitan area, so I routinely had opportunities to deal with unstable situations. I would agree that what has mostly worked is creating enough of a distraction or diversion that it brings the temperature down enough to get everyone to a safer place.

One time I prevented a stabbing. A man experiencing some serious delusions had begun threatening another library visitor quietly from a table away and eventually approached him and… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 3:32 AM on June 1, 2024 marked best answer

It looks like you might be in Colorado based on your previous asks. I was able to find an info sheet on labor rights from the Colorado Department of Labor and Employment here.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 5:33 PM on May 22, 2024

The info sheet I just linked to above is specifically for people working in construction.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 5:34 PM on May 22, 2024

It's worth mentioning that you and your partner will end up being the ones having to convince him that his name is perfectly fine and that he should take pride in it when he comes home upset that someone teased him about it or mispronounced it again. And that will only go so far in his mind because you'll be his parents so of course you think his name is great. In the rest of his life, he will be the one answering questions about his name and figuring out what name he wants to use when he goes… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 11:29 AM on May 21, 2024

You’re getting a stove in a week? You can totally do this. Check out ask mefis about no cook meals, but here is what I would recommend for one week without the need to buy additional kitchenware:

Day one: crusty bread, nice cheese, fresh fruit, salami or sliced turkey

Day two: microwave steamable rice, microwave steamable veggies, frozen fish or chicken nuggets made in the toaster oven, some interesting sauce (kalbi! Creamy cilantro! Sriracha… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 5:57 AM on May 19, 2024 marked best answer

Anthropologie basically entered the wedding dress industry with dresses like what you're describing.

They also have stores all over the place. You can search here and limit by stores that have a wedding shop. All of their dresses cost much less than 10k.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 8:08 AM on May 10, 2024

Honestly, as someone who worked as a children's librarian for years, your child does not sound like he is on the path to aliteracy. His selection is varied and the series books he's reading are a great stepping stone to middle grade novels (Mysterious Benedict Society, Percy Jackson, Serafina, etc). There are plenty of middle grade series that your local librarian can guide him to. Reading for pleasure happens best when kids explore their own reading interests.

Do you… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 9:18 AM on May 6, 2024

Your best bet is to reach out to a cpa or lawyer familiar with business taxation and regulation in each country. Most people choose a place of incorporation based on the location that provides the highest tax benefits and regulatory benefits. In the U.S. this can vary fairly significantly from state to state. Delaware is popular based on it’s favorable tax law, so some well known corporations maintain a small administrative office there.

The cost of this would vary… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 3:56 AM on May 4, 2024

It’s worth remembering that obits and eulogies only rarely touch upon the complexities of the deceased. It would be refreshing to have an honest eulogy saying “This person made some very bad choices in life but we’re here today because it’s good to get together and dude needs some burying.” but in practice that tends to be stifled because societally people try not to speak ill of the dead.

You’re not obligated to mourn in grief. I have definitely been to some funerals… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 1:38 PM on April 29, 2024

Where I live (major metropolitan area) you would need an MLS for you resume to be considered for a librarian position. You could easily get a library associate position, but the pay is abysmal for those.

However, about 2-3 hours out from my area, the small rural libraries might be a good fit, predominantly because they have a smaller applicant pool so they could actually read resumes rather than having the resumes sorted by a computer system first.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 7:08 PM on April 28, 2024

It sounds like you really love your husband and you’re scared that your differing perspective might impact what is otherwise a loving and supportive marriage.

I’m not going to address what’s going on abroad. At the same time, news about that is not going away any time soon so on a marriage level you need to be able to function while dealing with all the awful news.

I think it’s important to remember that (1) you’re a team (2) you’re unique people… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 4:08 PM on April 27, 2024

This man is stealing your time and it’s time to reclaim it. You mention you are not sure what he’s getting out of this situation, but it seems pretty clear that he’s getting all the benefits of a relationship with no need to do his part of the relationship work of providing commitment and caring for your feelings.

If you want a relationship and potentially marriage, this man is never going to give it to you and he will use up your time for years until you don’t have… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 7:57 AM on April 21, 2024

Also fwiw when I finally got up the will to do the above for my own terrible situationship, it freed me up to eventually meet the love of my life. A better partner is out there, and to meet them, you need to get rid of this leech.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 8:04 AM on April 21, 2024

You don’t have to make it stick out as extra Passover-ish.

-A salad bar set up with optional beans in a separate dish. (Some people have beans on Passover but others won’t so it’s best to put them separate)

-Tuna salad or whitefish salad

-Fruit or dried fruit and varied cheeses

-Nuts

-Small yogurt cups

-Olives and pickles

But yeah, Daily Alice is right, don’t combine meat and cheese on the same platter.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 1:43 PM on April 20, 2024

People are complicated. He seems incredibly stressed out and that is probably limiting his ability to be socially kind and conscious in the way he might normally be.

It seems like you have relied a lot this friend and I think it's important to re-frame why he might be acting this way since it seems unusual based on his prior support. While he would surely be greatly inconvenienced by a cold and it might provide some setbacks for him, it would be significantly more of a… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 7:16 PM on April 5, 2024

I agree with jacquilynne that this sounds like it is about household work. (But please please clarify if this is not the case)

If this is the case, I expect what is happening here is something along the lines of household work isn't getting done or isn't getting done sufficiently, you wife recognizes this disparity and attributes an intentionality on your part, whereas your lack of doing this work or not doing it in a way she thinks is right is not done with malice, but… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 5:03 PM on March 25, 2024

Potato chips/crisps! A lot of countries have distinct flavors that for some reason are not made elsewhere. Find the most specialized flavor that you can (prawn, masala, ketchup, Old Bay, pickle etc.). The bonus is that if you ever visit again you can bring the same thing but the next time it’ll have a following.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:26 AM on March 20, 2024

Seconding that it will help if you go to bed earlier or take a brief nap during the day. It’s hard to sleep after the morning meal and call to prayer because you have then been up and doing stuff that you would normally do in the morning but earlier than usual.

Is there any way you can adjust your work hours so that you start work shortly after the call to prayer? If you are able to finish work early or take a longer than normal lunch break (without lunch obviously) it… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:44 AM on March 14, 2024

Did you find out directly from the person or through hearsay? I wear prescription glasses but my eyesight is accurate enough that if I’m not driving anywhere that day, I don’t wear them. I’m sure there are some people who have seen me on weekends and thought “I thought she needed glasses…”

If the person told you directly, then yeah it’s a little unusual, but they might realize that at some point and you don’t have to be the one to ruin their day over it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 3:53 AM on March 14, 2024

Also if the person is babyfaced, they might find that nonprescription lenses adjust the way that people interact with them. For example: the average stranger might take them more seriously, they might not get carded as often at bars, or people might consider them “smart.”

None of those things actually tie in with eyesight obviously, but human society can be weird in the assumptions they make 🤷🏻‍♀️
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:30 AM on March 14, 2024

Similarly for the heat retention, Edgecomb Potters whale tail mugs have a conical shape that keeps hot drinks warm for longer.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 7:07 AM on March 13, 2024

We recently used the AmSafe harness for air travel. It worked great, was very easy to figure out, and is the only thing approved by the FAA for kids air travel. It’s also approved by the Canadian air authority (TC) and it appears to ship to Canada. Our kiddo was very comfortable in it.

The harness doesn’t solve the car seat issue though. We ended up not needing one for our travel but had we needed one, we would have gone with a Cosco Scenera Next which I read a ton of… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 10:52 AM on February 25, 2024

I am not a lawyer and this is not legal advice.

That said, this is a really useful write up and a couple things stick out to me as a non-lawyer.

First, that the trucker mentioned he had already told his bosses the area was too tight for his vehicle and they required him in the course of his job to go down that road in the dark and in the rain.
Second, that the damage to the car was a reasonably foreseeable and proximate result of the… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 5:06 PM on February 13, 2024

Are you in the same town? Any chance you could have Amy move in with you for a few months and then find her something.

If you are on good terms with her parents otherwise, this could be a middle ground option to agree too, but if they can't even agree to that, something is definitely up. For example, in the U.S. a parent gets to claim any child that lives at home with them as a dependent and it can save them a substantial amount of money on taxes. Do the parents have… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:51 PM on February 12, 2024

Your employer is obligated to work to resolve the issue. At the same time, you also are obligated as a taxpayer to file correctly to the best of your ability. The IRS discusses this more in their FAQ about incorrect W-2s found here.

Form 4852 is recommended in the FAQ response above. It is a substitute for incorrect and missing W-2s that an be filled out by the taxpayer. More info on that is here. There is also a number to call so the IRS can follow up with your… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 7:15 AM on January 25, 2024

Also, yes, echoing that this is a tax issue for which it is worth consulting a CPA.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 7:30 AM on January 25, 2024

Does she have a personal office at her new job?

If she doesn't, I second the recommendation for a one off of artificial flowers (as a courtesy to her coworkers who may have sensitivities to scents).

Likewise, it may be worth double checking with your wife if she also envisions the flowers at the desk tradition to work with her new work environment. If she's not attached to the idea, maybe the weekly bouquet can end up in a different place in your… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 9:42 AM on January 22, 2024

You and your partner have this thing to do as a team. Take care of an ailing dog. Things like this don't have to be 50/50 but they do have to be divided equitably for the members of the team. Right now it's not really equitable and the way to know this is because one partner is doing literally all the dog work and is overwhelmed by it.

It's really good you're asking this about your shared dog before you have a child because this is the sort of issue that comes up in… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:26 PM on January 11, 2024

A delivery person for the Pony Express

If you get a blue hobby horse, you could add horns like an ox and dress like Paul Bunyan.

According to this list of fictional horses, Supergirl has a horse named Comet.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 10:31 AM on January 8, 2024

I'm currently studying for the CPA exam but I'm not a CPA, EA, or Attorney and this isn't tax advice.

Part III, box 1 on Sch. K-1 is for reporting Ordinary Business Income (Loss). Since your business lost money this year as expenses rose and income decreased, in box one you'll want to enter the amount of money lost in parenthesis to indicate that it is a loss. For example, if your ordinary business loss was $400, you would enter (400) in box 1.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 10:49 AM on January 3, 2024

Ambitious, but you could make teeny tiny snow globes and give them out as gifts next Christmas.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 10:13 AM on January 3, 2024

I agree that it sounds like your major challenge is choosing a destination. This is actually a good thing given that it sounds like you already have previously tossed around a selection of places you would like to vacation.

I recommend making a big list or spreadsheet with all the places you have ever thought you might want to go. Then either alphabetize them and take vacations to all of them over time in alphabetical order, or number them and use a random number… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:26 AM on December 30, 2023

Some decisions just don’t come easy! You might never be 100% sure but usually I figure if I’m like 75%+ sure of a decision, it’s probably a valid choice. I can’t make this choice for you but what helped us was thinking about adults we knew who were only children and realizing they were as well adjusted as the rest of society really. We also read the book One and Only and that was helpful to an extent. Basically you just need to get to a point where this decision that seems monumental sort of… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:22 AM on December 15, 2023

Libraries are routinely looking for programming. If you introduce yourself to the librarian who would manage programming for the age range of your book and provide them with your contact info stating that you are available for a reading or author talk, they might take you up on that. If it is an out of town library that you don’t often frequent, you can check their catalog online in advance and reach out by phone or email a few weeks ahead of time with info on when you will be in town.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:40 AM on December 12, 2023

I don’t know if there is a list somewhere, but in my personal experience the answer to so many questions about female medicine and fertility ends up being “Well we don’t really know…”

Ex. Why do 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage? 🤷🏻‍♀️
Why do some women have shorter period durations than others? 🤷🏻‍♀️
Why do women get more migraines than men? 🤷🏻‍♀️
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:32 AM on December 12, 2023 marked best answer

Did a supervisor warn you about him or a coworker? If a supervisor, just stay in your lane, do your work, and keep your supervisor informed about the work you are doing and any interactions with him that have impacted your ability to complete your work.

If a coworker warned you about him and he is universally disliked, talk to your coworkers to see how they have managed it.

Honestly, this may sound defeatist but I don't know that it is worth… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 10:43 AM on November 28, 2023

I’m with Iris Gambol on this one. The most enjoyable thing to do in this situation is to lean in hard. Get a bunch of coffee table books about bears on eBay, buy bear art, get bear soap dispensers, etc. And then decorate like it’s the Bear holidays for your family’s visit. Then instead of “oh, you still have that?” It just becomes “wow, um you really like bears…” to which you can nonchalantly respond “yup”
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 9:01 AM on November 18, 2023

If you are near a university with an Italian program, they may also have a dvd and a way to play the dvd in the library.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:00 AM on November 13, 2023

Thirding Soak! It’s the only thing I use to wash my nice knitting projects.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:46 AM on November 7, 2023

Is it possible that you were not prescribed misoprostol since you don’t have tissue to clear? If you can’t get in touch with your gynecologist perhaps check with a pharmacist.

Take good care of you during this time.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 4:16 AM on November 4, 2023

What's great in situations like this, where you know you fear is not founded in the reality of the situation, is a really good distraction.

Do you have a friend nearby who you can hang out with on the night shes going out with her friends? Bonus points if you have a friend nearby who you can mention your fears to so they can reassure you that your partner sounds really cool and definitely wouldn't throw away your relationship.

If you don't have a… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 8:24 AM on October 31, 2023

The company store’s flannel notch collar pajamas have excellent pockets and are a nice thick flannel.

Although they don’t ship direct to Canada, their pajamas are also sold through Home Depot, which does ship internationally.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:10 PM on October 30, 2023

Have you searched on the Department of Justice site? Sometimes they have publications on fraud cases in which someone was apprehended by the FBI.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:32 PM on October 18, 2023

Aaron’s putty. They make mini tins so you don’t have a giant distracting putty ball and it’s really a nice sensory aid when focusing on complex topics.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 9:48 AM on October 6, 2023

Sweet Potato!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 4:28 PM on October 5, 2023

My glasses are from Eye Buy Direct. They have a ton of styles and are reasonably priced for good lenses (including progressives) and coatings. They have sales quite a bit (right now is buy one get one). Like was mentioned above, you will need your prescription and also pupillary distance. I also have prescription sunglasses from there since it was a really good deal and wow prescription sunnies are pretty life changing.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 8:11 AM on October 5, 2023

Couldn't find a name, but here is the original Getty photo used in the promotion, which might help someone else find the name
posted to Ask MetaFilter by donut_princess at 6:33 PM on October 3, 2023