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I'm an awkward Best reason to move out of your home country? Foreigners, everywhere, are considered crazy. I am no longer a strange man who lives outside American social norms and is thus at least awkward and sometimes even… [more]
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“Well, do they want to work at that part-time, minimum-wage job for the rest of their life?" This is an extremely prevalent attitude and your words probably hit some serious buttons based on societal shame and likely some… [more]
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I’m afraid you’re looking in the wrong place for the security problem. People intercepting the data in transit has never been a real problem to speak of (there was a brief era when WiFi was first becoming popular) but simply having the unencrypted… [more]
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everyone pretending to be "on the make" when, in fact, 99% of them have never earned enough to make rent I think "on the make" may mean something different than what you're intending. [more]
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I think a lot about how much the cognitive load of all these things makes it so much harder to have the cognitive space to make other kinds of change I’ve been living in a country with fairly strict gun control for five years and it has… [more]
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The part that gets me is how lonely it'd be to move to a new country. There are expats everywhere, which can make for a soft landing. The shared process of learning a new language and culture (and the simple logistics of day-to-day life)… [more]
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We can get defensive about it, ignore him, or get to work. Or possibly just follow his lead. What chunk of land you got born on was random, folks. It sucks if you’re stuck there but let’s not go making a virtue out of necessity. [more]
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I used to have this issue but mindfulness meditation has given me an enormous amount of practice in redirecting my mind back from whatever weeds it’s wandered off into. It’s reflexive now. [more]
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One thing I said in 2016 is that when President Trump builds his wall, it won't be to keep foreigners out but to keep Americans in. I’m honestly not sure how you reach that conclusion. Trump has always been ready to tell anyone who… [more]
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>> telling constituents that you’re working hard to take away their access to health care is not a good look. > Their play is to point out that *those people* would get free healthcare on your tax dime. As always, but in this… [more]
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"Actually, it's good that doors are blowing off planes in midair" is not a take I expected to see here. I’m going to be generous and assume that you posted in the wrong thread, because there’s absolutely nothing to that effect… [more]
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The friend I saw the movie with in the theatre and myself laughed ourselves to tears at the climactic lobby scene - it’s just so over the top and ludicrous. We were, of course, the only people in the completely packed theatre who were laughing… [more]
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And then eat it. [more]
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In the Monroe County case, notably missing from the article is that one of the defendants is black. The reports of racial tension with the single black man on the jury casts significant doubt for me about whether the defendant was receiving a fair… [more]
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It's important to specialize your niche in the post-apocalypse world. [more]
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On the flip side of it, engineers are not innocent in this. For the last half of my career I considered that the entire management suite existed to pull together money so that me and my friends could build interesting devices. We knew about the… [more]
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The only time I've really gotten something out of an eclipse was when I forgot one was happening and started wondering why the light was unaccountably dim outside. Otherwise... partial, full, whatever. It's kind neat to see the sun occluded but… [more]
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"Why bring the government into a relationship" and "People should never be forced to be together longer than they want to be". "Why bring the government into *our* relationship" and "*I* should never be… [more]
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A lot of good advice here and I'm not going to repeat it. What I *am* going to do is congratulate you on asking this question. It's clear that you're learning to be more moderate in your actions and stopping to double check your thinking is an… [more]
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That does sound like a very mild expression of Bipolar II. Of course, I have that so everything sounds to me like an expression of Bipolar II. [more]
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I think you're going to look back at this situation and realize that it was not about your partner failing to make a public speech at a retirement party. Basically I don't think this incident is over yet. If you want to do right by your husband I… [more]
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I mean, we have recordings of phone calls between people who worked at Enron joking amongst themselves about how their power grid failing was causing active harm to disabled elderly customers - like, down to adopting "little old lady"… [more]
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I walked most of the way across Santa Cruz in the evening after the Loma Prieta quake. There was no city electricity or gas but roughly once a block there was a group of neighbors holding a barbecue of what they expected to go bad in their… [more]
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I don't really get the mindset of watching Fury Road and thinking "those Warboys have a sweet deal." I mean, that can't all imagine that they will be Immortan Joe, can they? Yup. For most of them this is all about living out a… [more]
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Oh, yeah, there was somebody was in my comments literally last week telling me like, 'well, the best thing you need to do is to get in really good shape.' And I'm like, what scenario? I don't know if that's the best thing, but it could be a… [more]
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A recent SMBC spoke to the primitive barbarian model for humans. [more]
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I don’t know if these were midlife crises, but my friends describe them that way. In my mid thirties I followed up a divorce by declaring myself burned out on my job, selling or giving away everything I owned, and hitting the road for a year… [more]
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I live in Mérida. I can speak about Yucatán but all I know about Cancun (and all of Quintana Roo) is that it's a lot more expensive and they have hurricanes. Hurricanes hit the East Coast and turn North so there's none of that here. While you'd… [more]
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Remind me of a verse, Beowulf edition
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I know some people think dreams are the result of random electrical impulses in your brain but I am firmly of the belief they have significant meaning. It wouldn’t matter if they were just random electrical impulses. Humans can pick up… [more]
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“Yeah, I read that.” [more]
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Particularly for language but also elsewhere are Prescriptionists vs. Descriptionists. The first are people who firmly believe that a language is defined by a set of rules ("no prepositions at the end of sentences “) and the second are people… [more]
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As has been commented elsewhere, the description of 1999 as the peak of human civilization seemed like it wouldn’t age well at the time. [more]
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That 1 in 7000 number is *highly* misleading as an indicator of how common incest is, because of how tiny a subset it is of the real number. I don’t think it was ever intended to be used that way? We already know how bad the child… [more]
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Blaise Pascal famously wrote: "I have made this [letter] longer than usual because I have not had time to make it shorter." There is a hidden implication in that, which is that making a letter shorter is a separate process from writing… [more]
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"Neurodivergent" is used so diversely as to practically be a null term. It can mean pretty much anything anyone wants it to mean. However, as with anything else, if someone chooses to wear something on their sleeve you can’t go too far… [more]
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If the new boss and coworkers are worth their salt, their response will be “Aw crap, it was nice to have met you.“ There may, however, be an attempt to offer competitive pay so you should be ready for that. The real concern I see is what the… [more]
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I have not been in a position to have this discussion with anyone, but I did want to comment that there is a potential midstep between having them live there and tossing them out. That is to limit the house time — set a rule that they are not allowed… [more]
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This thread needs over and under 50 years of age sections. [more]
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I had a conservative Israeli friend who was fond of saying that American Jewish people were by and large anti-semitic. I'm sure he's feeling smug right now. Strangely, the “Hamas” they’re responding to sometimes looks an awful lot like… [more]
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On a slightly different tack, by far the largest red flag I ignored was my instincts. Intellectually I could go through a list and check some boxes and not others, but I really should’ve paid heed to my raw feelings. On which note let me add… [more]
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All I can tell you is what 3 couples close to me have done, which was to cut the third person 100% out of the equation, have the cheating party enter solo therapy to explore their reasons, and attend couple's therapy together. In two cases there… [more]
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Getting past security is trivial. They don't check that your boarding pass is real at that point so you can print out anything you like and show it to them. It's not until you go to get on the plane that they scan it. [more]
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Elsewhere, I’m living in a culture where extended families tend to stay near to each other and the young people have seen paid babysitters on American television but don’t really understand why they exist. There’s always somewhere to drop the kids. [more]
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I can't find it at the moment, but I recall academics saying it was better to use cats as examples when teaching genetics instead of humans, to avoid the situation where a student finds out during class that someone they thought was their… [more]
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EvaDestruction: If he's going to change, he has to want to. He hasn't said he wants to change. He hasn't asked for your support changing. This. Oh so very much this. You aren't asking if he can change, you are asking if you can change… [more]
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Phrases that have appeared in my journal recently: "spinning my wheels", "something pretty huge is missing from my life", "I don't feel joy, or love, or a sense of belonging or purpose". Is this just... garden… [more]
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? Yes, they do. Haven't you ever had to put your phone on the glass just the right way so it reads it while the CBP person looks at you grumpily? Perhaps I’m suffering from post-TSA memory loss but I can’t recall any point in the security… [more]
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It’s the same thing with the stock market. If you were capable of reliably predicting what the real estate market will do, you would be doing that for a living and making out like a bandit. It’s a skill very very very few people possess, so you… [more]
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The previous policy of "no I/P threads" is looking less paternalistic and more like self-preservation. Yup. Nothing is resolved in these threads and there are a lot of people who want someplace to vent rather than participate… [more]
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