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“and reiterated the fact that relying on each other in our small team is key.”

She’s telling you that you just need to ask for help on stuff you’re not sure how to do.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 9:44 PM on February 8, 2022

How could an unplugged freezer raise the temperature of its contents above the ambient temperature outside it? Where would that heat have come from?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 6:13 AM on February 8, 2022

He actually loves going to the garage and will throughout the day sit by the door and meow until I let him in there. At night he happily runs in when I say "time for bed!" There's a lot for him to do out there - from chasing bugs to exploring to hunting critters.

Call me crazy, but… maybe he should just live in the garage for the short term while you figure this out. It sounds like he might be much happier that way, and meanwhile you can explore options like meds etc.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 5:44 AM on February 4, 2022

I’ve also heard the ‘sew a tennis ball to the back if a sleep shirt’ tip! Worth a shot.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 3:03 PM on February 1, 2022

You should definitely check out Civ - VI if your computer can run it, V if it can’t. Not dissimilar to CKIII but with a much longer timescale and more abstraction (eg you only have one leader for thousands of years). It’s got that exact same vibe of “endlessly complex if you want, but minmaxing isn’t actually required to win,” and the dozens of playable civs with interesting unique playstyles keep it fresh. I don’t want to admit how many hundreds of hours of Civ VI I played during my extended… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 3:34 PM on January 31, 2022

I’m a container gardener in NYC, so slightly milder but still pretty harsh, and I concur that your best results will probably come from annuals, self-seeding perennials, or plants/bulbs you bring indoors in the winter. However I also want to point out that you can totally grow some tropical plants in the summer in Chicago! For example I’ve had great success with growing ginger plants from grocery-store-bought rhizomes here in New York - they thrive in the late-summer heat and humidity that many… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 3:26 PM on January 31, 2022

And I'm pretty sure, as I know her well, that she will either deny out of embarrassment or she will admit and again feel really embarrassed and bad, and we'll put it behind us BUT it will create awkwardness for a while - which does make me slightly hesitant, hence being curious to know how others would approach this.

Regarding this particular thing, I think embarrassment can be healthy sometimes! It’s one of the ways humans learn what is and isn’t… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 4:17 PM on January 27, 2022

Similarly, 박 is not actually "Park" (there's no "r" sound in the name).

IIRC it’s spelled that way because English people established the spelling of the Korean name in roman characters, and English people (or at least, those with certain accents) don’t pronounce the R in park.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 4:28 PM on January 25, 2022

Much of what I assumed would be coded (his attractions to young men) seemed pretty openly stated.

This was what I found so stunning about Hill House as well. It seems like there are a lot of cases where mainstream readers were so unwilling or unable to contemplate the idea of homosexuality that they HAD to interpret it as “very close platonic friends” even when doing so makes the narrative make way less sense (at least to my modern gay self).… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 12:44 PM on January 22, 2022

"Lion-Eating Poet in the Stone Den" (Chinese: 施氏食獅史; pinyin: Shī-shì shí shī shǐ) is a short narrative poem written in Classical Chinese that is composed of about 94 characters (depending on the specific version) in which every word is pronounced shi ([ʂɻ̩]) when read in present-day Standard Mandarin, with only the tones differing.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 7:18 AM on January 22, 2022

I also think it looks like painted paper. Specifically I'd guess watercolor - look at how the blue and pink bleed into each other at the bottom - and possibly it's all one piece that was cut prior to being painted. That I'm less sure about, but the intersections where the leaves meet the stem also have a little bleeding.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 7:01 PM on January 11, 2022 marked best answer

You should be able to keep them in the fridge and then plant them in spring.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 2:32 PM on January 8, 2022 marked best answer

Elementary-aged kids are KIDS, and one of the ways they learn things are inappropriate is by testing the limits. That is normal kid behavior. It sounds like you think this is step one to your kid turning into a monster. I would gently suggest that picking up on that vibe from you is not going to be good for him.

Look, I got suspended from kindergarten three times for hitting other kids. I grew up to be a smart cool normal person who does not rob banks or commit murders.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 10:12 AM on January 8, 2022

I mean, it seems like you fully understand what was going on: this dude is not a nice or thoughtful person and his understanding of women is twisted.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 10:03 AM on January 7, 2022

There are some good suggestions above for sure. But I’d also ask yourself what you’re trying to express when you say it, because sometimes stock phrases like that one become just verbal placeholders or tics, Things You Say, without much actual meaning behind them. Even if the phrase “spirit animal” was totally unproblematic, in what situations would you actually NEED to say it?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 8:16 AM on January 5, 2022

My parents are both left-handed so I learned to use a mouse with my left hand. I am now ambidextrous with a mouse and nothing else, and it does come in handy sometimes!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 3:43 PM on January 2, 2022

In addition to the above: at work (where I manage the public contact inbox) I will sometimes get emails from normally trusted domains sent to spam if the sender embedded multiple links in the body of the email. That seems to be the common factor when people call us up asking why we never responded to them.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 7:39 AM on January 2, 2022 marked best answer

You guys I think both OP and the boyfriend are aware of the nervousness implications of the phrase “sweaty palms” he is just saying it doesn’t happen to him in that situation, and yes that means he sweats weird
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 8:49 AM on December 31, 2021

Was it this one?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 9:59 PM on December 24, 2021 marked best answer

This is kind of a curveball, but could it have been Star Trek: Deep Space Nine? There’s a species of symbiotic sluglike things that can be implanted in people and basically become one with them. They live in underground cave pools and are tended to by a caretaker, and there’s a scene where someone steps into the pool and kinda communes with them.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 8:37 AM on December 18, 2021 marked best answer

Here is a not very good screencap of the scene I mentioned above where someone goes into the pool and communes with the symbionts.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 8:42 AM on December 18, 2021

I would blitz some regular sugar as fine as you can and let it dissolve in the syrup. Otherwise I think you’ll have too much water.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 5:59 AM on December 17, 2021 marked best answer

My current therapist almost seems to be on my sisters side, she always just says to try seeing things from my sisters perspective.

I don’t think it necessarily means what you think it does when your therapist says it. Saying “try to see things from this person’s perspective” doesn’t always mean “this person is right and you’re wrong,” it can also mean “because of who this person is, their perspective is inherently limited and very different from… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 11:54 AM on December 15, 2021

Tbh it sounds like you’re already not friends with them anymore, and the only thing keeping the remains of the friendship going is your own actions. I bet if you stopped reaching out you wouldn’t hear from them again.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 8:45 AM on November 26, 2021

I promise you she does not want to work for a billionaire philanthropist with a very particular work culture. It's never a happy work culture.

I have to second this.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 7:34 PM on November 15, 2021

I took the door off my bedroom closet a few months ago and am so happy I did. In my case it was a normal door that just opened in such a way as to really restrict the layout of my room. I wish I’d done it years ago! A daily annoyance, eliminated!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 7:03 AM on November 13, 2021

Hey OP you’re allowed to judge people for doing stupid fucking shit.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 4:52 AM on November 11, 2021

Dear Hiring Manager or Dear Hiring Committee is fine. I have reviewed a ton of resumes at various jobs and frankly “to whom it may concern” just sounds totally silly to me.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 4:34 AM on November 11, 2021

Nooo don’t do something gimmicky like addressing it to the CEO, a person who is extremely likely to never set eyes on the thing. Don’t pick a specific name at all. To me it doesn’t say “oo gumption this person checked the website!”, it’s just weird and also inaccurate because almost always, multiple people will screen resumes, not just a single manager. It’s you going out of your way to make an incorrect assumption and then include that incorrect assumption in your application. Don’t do it.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 4:40 AM on November 11, 2021

This is what cover letters are for isn’t it? Explaining why your seemingly weird experience is actually super relevant to the position?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 1:39 PM on November 7, 2021

Oh, huh - looking at the other photos in the link, I think that may not be a loveseat version of the above chair, but literally just that chair warped to look bigger because it’s at the edge of the frame. Typical real estate photography trickery.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 1:02 PM on October 31, 2021

I can’t believe you guys haven’t ever heard “following guest”. It’s literally everywhere in New York and I guess I assumed it was universal. It’s so common that I never even thought to wonder about it until this post.

I especially notice it in places where there are more registers than lines, like a Trader Joe’s. In a place like that there’s a lot of background noise, and I’m wondering if that’s related - it’s a phrase that would be hard to mistake for anything else.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 7:25 PM on October 30, 2021

The Allusionist, a great etymology podcast by a very funny British lady called Helen Zaltzmann.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 12:22 PM on October 30, 2021

I had a copper IUD for almost a decade, and after I took it out it was like… I don’t know, like I barely had a period anymore. I don’t know if I forgot what periods were like before I got it, or if they got worse over time while I had it, but since taking it out I’ve barely even had a cramp. I don’t regret having gotten it - hormonal birth control doesn’t agree with me in any form, and my god it was nice to just NEVER have to think about it - but ultimately I’m glad I was in a position to have… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 8:30 PM on October 28, 2021

I mean, you say “probably the same pay” which implies you don’t actually know what this new job pays. Why not just interview and ask for more than you’re making?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 2:57 PM on October 27, 2021

It sounds like the clients are not going to change no matter what you do, so I think your choices are either 1. The department starts accepting things in the incorrect format and fixing them for the clients as part of your normal workflow, or 2. You find a way to become less emotionally invested in these clients’ incompetence. Honestly, method 1 sounds much easier to achieve. All this time you guys spend trying and failing to educate the clients might be far better and more efficiently spent… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 3:15 PM on October 26, 2021

You need an actual plan for what you will be doing instead of scrolling. If this is something that’s taken up a lot of your time for years and years, it’s not like you’re just gonna drop your screens and immediately know what you’re going to do with that time.

So instead of, “I want to reduce screen time,” think about it like “here are all the things I’m going to do instead of being on the computer.” Then it’s not like you’re depriving yourself, you’re just adding something.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 8:45 PM on October 22, 2021

DO you have to, though? What would happen if you didn’t?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 8:30 PM on October 20, 2021

I keep some bars at my desk that are nothing but ground up nuts and dates, they are great for this problem. That’s been my general solution for this - just to find a couple things I can stand to eat over and over and keep a whole bunch of them around. Then I don’t have to actively think about it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 10:49 AM on October 20, 2021

With some medications this would be dangerous. If it’s meant to be slow release and you don’t reseal the capsule properly and it all gets into your system at once, that’s not good.

You know your psych better than us, but are you certain they wouldn’t adjust it back down if you insisted?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 3:18 PM on October 19, 2021

I would bet replicas. The smooth parts just look too smooth to be actual antiques.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 8:39 AM on October 16, 2021

A family is a tall dad, a short mom, a boy, a girl, a baby, a cat, a dog, and a goldfish.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 1:42 AM on October 5, 2021

In general, if some people didn’t get some sense of meaning out of cults and MLMs, then cults and MLMs would not exist. I’m not seeing any conflicting information in this question. This friend of a friend can genuinely feel it’s helped them; that doesn’t make it not a cult.

Personally I had never heard of it before, but your question prompted me to look into it and, well, I guess just read this and decide for yourself.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 3:39 PM on October 4, 2021

When was the last time your parents either interviewed for a new job or conducted hiring? Any time within the past several years? Because a LOT of parents also think the best way to get a job is to circle listings in the print newspaper, then walk around town with a stack of resumes and impress hiring managers with your Gumption and Verve
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 2:57 PM on October 1, 2021

A lesson I just learned is, be damn careful about using the sprayer on your sink to clean up the cutting board after. Hoo boy that was bad.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 4:46 PM on September 27, 2021

If you could reason people out of phobias, people wouldn’t have phobias.

I am afraid of heights. I have tried to reason myself out of it. It does not work.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 5:40 PM on September 24, 2021 marked best answer

About six months ago I took a job as a receptionist/office manager. I'm very surprised by how much I enjoy it. Not every receptionist work environment would be what you describe, but a lot of them would be.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 7:01 PM on September 16, 2021

For the future, I think what she was hoping for is not a dye but a glaze, which sits on top of the hair shaft but doesn’t penetrate it or chemically change it.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 5:11 PM on September 16, 2021

I suspect it’s because you are a person who has done work to address your anxiety so that you DON’T do these things, and your reaction is like “why don’t you understand that you don’t have to do this?? I did the work so why can’t you?”
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 2:54 PM on September 12, 2021

I got more comfortable dancing after taking a hula hoop class. I think I would have been too self conscious to take a DANCE-dance class, but hooping was just different enough to get me out of my head while actually teaching me some of the same movements.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 11:51 AM on September 12, 2021