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Not to sound all Darth Vader-y, but the turning point for me was allowing myself to be overtly angry at my parents for what my childhood was like. Two things facilitated that. First, I started learning about the nature of domestic violence. Second, I found a therapist who created a space in which I could explore and express that anger. The type of work we (my therapist and I) do is called internal family systems therapy. It's the first time I could ever talk about my anger, much less start… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 6:34 AM on May 11, 2024

Fool On The Hill by Matt Ruff is more speculative fiction/fantasy, but it's about a writer at Cornell.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 11:01 AM on April 21, 2024

If competence can mean precision, creativity and skill, you might look at the documentary Rivers and Tides, about the artist Andy Goldsworthy. And it looks like there's a newer one as well, Leaning into the Wind. They are documentaries, though, not plot-driven stories.

He makes intricate art in nature, with found materials.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 7:20 AM on April 21, 2024

It looks like Nasa is taking names for the next Mars mission, but I don't think there is a launch scheduled, this this is more for a future mission. It looks like they do this with most launches, so maybe try to get on a mailing list?

I can't find anything for the European Space Agency, but they must do something similar.

Tripoli Rocketry Association is an org for amateur rocketry, and their events regularly see rockets go much, much higher than… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 7:01 AM on April 11, 2024

For Excel, I've always liked Chandoo, and he has a course for ~$150 https://chandoo.org/wp/excel-school-program/

Whatever course they choose, please implore them to make part of their learning Power Query. It's a force multiplier for using Excel, and will give them a leg up if they are ever in a position to have to use Power BI.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 7:18 AM on February 19, 2024

Just to add, in Seattle, so freezing winters not necessarily guaranteed. And we can't figure out exactly where the wasps are getting in. There aren't a lot, just one or two a day or so. And they aren't bees.

Thanks for the feedback so far!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 7:14 PM on December 20, 2023

We finally got a long freeze, so as soon as I can we'll be sealing the outside ingress.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 7:56 AM on January 14, 2024

Does anyone have any advice or techniques to deal with a dynamic, constantly moving role with daily deadlines?

I'm not sure what tools you have access to, but a spreadsheet of tasks is not a bad start. Some kind of calendaring system might also be a good idea.

If you have access to Microsoft Teams, they have an app called "Tasks by Planner" that combines checklists and due dates. There are a number of tutorials… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 11:52 AM on December 29, 2023

Monty Python and the Holy Grail has two great commentary tracks. Gilliam and Jones do one, and Cleese, Idle and Palin do the other.

I also remember enjoying the Life of Brian commentary tracks.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 3:01 PM on December 8, 2023

I'm only going to speak to this "embarrassed at how people will react" part of your question, and going to assume that your partner is masculine presenting based on your word choices.

1) I have (had?) a male friend who did this. His wife is a obstetrician and made enough money that he didn't have to work, so he decided to "stay home" and take care of their two kids. He struggled with this issue, in particular being perceived as a "p*ssy"… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 8:35 AM on November 16, 2023

Part of your question sounds like you want resources or research, which some people have mentioned above and which I don't have. But I can give you my perspective.

"... the social and psychological reasons why most people are less engaged than them, and why we don't all jump to help in a crisis when we logically know we should."

Your partner and I could have a conversation about (nameless conflict) or any of the ones on xdvesper's… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 7:20 AM on November 5, 2023

In my head this works, not sure about implementation. Could you make hotdogs, but maybe decorate the buns like cars or trains and cut hotdogs into pieces and stand them up so they look like little people? I realize Godzilla didn't really eat people, and you might not want hot dogs thrown around the room, but...
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 3:41 PM on October 27, 2023

You might try the roastary. They are huge and a tourist draw, so they have lots of stuff to buy.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 2:42 PM on October 21, 2023

I think you're settling in on a path, but I will suggest that if you're eating iceberg lettuce, it might be sulfites. Most places don't use them anymore, but I'm sure some do, and salad stuff, especially lettuce, is a possible vector. Gardenia sometimes has it, and I've gotten reactions off of other pickled vegetables. Runny nose is the first thing I get.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 6:04 PM on October 18, 2023

Lin my experience food banks have minimal training requirements before you can start working. Sign up, show up, do a shift.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 12:31 PM on October 10, 2023

Whatever you end up watching, please add the episode of Community called Introduction to Teaching, at least the bits with A bed (which maybe you can find on YiuTube), where he becomes obsessed with Cage movies. The final scene where he loses it in class is A+++
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 6:40 PM on October 6, 2023

Thanks everyone. I think one of the factors was that as some pointed out a roof is different from a deck, and that only became clear to me the more I talked to contractors and read. I got two other estimates, and I got a similarly detailed/informed one that came in around 20k, depending on what they find when they pull up the existing membrane. I think we'll be going with that one.

Anyway, I appreciate everyone's perspective, it helped me not freak out.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 8:35 AM on September 30, 2023

Peter Adachi is in one union, at 6th/University, about 3.5 blocks from University Street link station. I've found him personable and competent, although I don't like the person he has that sells you glasses, ymmv. He's PoC
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 5:52 PM on September 17, 2023

Y'alls honesty has allowed me to admit something: Until very recently, like this year, I didn't understand/clock/recognize that the name the of the band The Beatles wasn't a label describing them as bugs, but a sort of pun with the musical word "beat" in it.

On preview: Similar to Kindall, that when written out, "tsk tsk tsk" isn't said aloud "tisk tisk tisk", but as a noise you make by sucking air into your mouth past your tongue pressed… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 5:50 AM on September 7, 2023

Mefi favorite Riddley Walker puts you inside a character's head in a time and place in a way I've never experienced before, by narrating the story in a post-apocalyptic version of English.

I'd also suggest How To Be Both by Ali Smith, mentioned in the thread Knile linked.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 12:29 PM on September 5, 2023 marked best answer

Community's "Cooperative Calligraphy" is explicitly a bottle episode.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 11:50 AM on August 29, 2023

Combat's The Pillbox takes place almost entirely in...a WWII pillbox.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 6:29 PM on August 30, 2023

Gender-based violence is predicated on the messages that boys and men get about their place in the world and how they should behave. I'd recommend looking into programs/activities/information that seek to educate/inform/unpack these messages (sometimes called "Men's Accountability"). Paul Kivel was part of a program called the Oakland Men's Project that created a number of tools and exercises that get at these issues, and you can find information at his Website (https://paulkivel.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 9:51 PM on August 14, 2023 marked best answer

You might consider contacting the Seattle Office for Civil Rights, they have a section about employment discrimination. I thought I read that they offer services free of charge, but I can't find that now.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 1:57 PM on August 13, 2023

I just (two days ago)had the same thing happen with a door to door pest control thing. He kept talking about my neighbor Susan, and the Garcias and the Vargases. He very deliberately mentioned each name twice.

I have no idea if those are legit names from the neighborhood, but it felt kind of creepy and very "tactic-y"
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 9:26 AM on June 23, 2023

Delicatus, at Benaroya hall. George's Sausage & Delicatessen, 9th/Madison, which might be stretching the definition of downtown.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 2:35 PM on June 22, 2023

In my experience as a volunteer domestic violence advocate, abuse is usually but not exclusively about a pattern of behavior where one person is trying to gain power and maintain control over another. You might look at https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/. Your book might talk about the wheel, which is a good framing device for these issues.

Of course, as others have said, definitions don't matter and if one person doesn't feel that the… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 11:18 AM on June 22, 2023

Why can't I be like this without meds? I don't have ADHD and can't speak for how the Ritalin works, although I have taken various forms of antidepressants during the course of my life. It might be that the drugs work because you have an organic issue that the meds correct. There's a stigma (well, many) in this society about mental health issues, and people somehow think if only you behaved in X way, you'd be fine.

I have severe chronic asthma.… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 8:22 AM on June 22, 2023

My beard is usually 1/8 - 1/2 inch long. I use these masks. I can't get ear loops to keep a seal, but these head straps are pretty good, and when I breath the mask's movement indicated air is being drawn in/pushed out through the mask. You could probably tie a loop in the straps to make it even tighter.

It's not going to be perfect, since the beard prevents a perfect seal, but this is as good as I've found.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 8:34 PM on June 1, 2023

Any chance you like (or can learn to like) liverwurst or braunschweiger? Both are super high in iron (like 30% of rda in 1 serving). That's what I used when I tried dietary sources.

There's also the Lucky Iron Fish, which is another way of adding dietary iron that might be easier than using cast iron pans.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 7:37 PM on May 23, 2023

+1 for Axiom. I have an older pair with a laptop sleeve, and these look like they have one, too. The waterproofing is enough for Seattle downpours, and I haven't have an issue with the release mechanism.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 11:52 AM on May 23, 2023

Courtney Barnett, Alex Lahey, The Regrettes, fronted by Lydia Night
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 9:21 PM on May 20, 2023

Boy Gets Girl is a play about this. And other things.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 1:53 PM on April 11, 2023

Mitch Hedberg? I think he's more surreal than offensive, my 14 year old self would have loved him. I think I remember a few drug jokes, but not many.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 12:26 PM on April 7, 2023

I don't have an answer, but validate your experience. Duck Duck Go is also less useful than it once was.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 12:47 PM on March 13, 2023

I can't do a lot of research into this right now, but I think you want to look at paging technology or service. Pager signal penetration is much better than cell service (or, it used to be), and I think it's still in use. I don't know whether there are 1-button press devices to another device, but you might be able to find one.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 9:20 AM on March 7, 2023

Metzger's Dog, by Thomas Perry. It's not exactly a heist, but it's clever, intricate and very funny.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 7:20 AM on February 28, 2023

Teams has a ...thing... called "Tasks by Planner" that lets you set up individual items that can be scheduled on a recurring basis, and inside each item you can set up a checklist. Individual items can be assigned to one or more people, but not individual checklist items.

And it sends out reminders to whoever is assigned to an item.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 9:44 AM on January 24, 2023 marked best answer

Red solo cup with a cut aligned with one of the measuring lines? You're still cutting it, but maybe it will look better?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 7:47 PM on January 20, 2023

Impostor (2001 film), which is one of my favorite PK Dick adaptations.

Six Degrees of Separation, which falls into the "variations" part of your post, about someone who claims to be close to the family. A stellar turn by all present, especially a 1993 Will Smith.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 5:05 PM on January 15, 2023

Thanks all!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 12:15 PM on November 15, 2022

Stateside is excellent upscale Vietnamese, and is about 3-4 blocks from the convention center.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 12:07 PM on November 7, 2022

A large section of Child of Fortune by Norman Spinrad takes place in a giant forest. I loved it when I read it in college (shortly after it came out), but not sure how it holds up.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 3:05 PM on November 6, 2022

The scene in question
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 5:03 AM on October 28, 2022 marked best answer

Downtown is different from other parts of the city. Mostly, I think, because of remote work. There are significantly fewer people commuting in to work, which means fewer office workers, and a lot of the businesses are struggling/closed. Having said that, there aren't encampments downtown the way there were last year. Maybe a tent or two in a few places, but I think the city is trying to keep the sidewalks clear.

Other parts of the city have encampments dotted around,… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 8:02 AM on October 21, 2022

I meant to add, I think there's also more mental illness visible downtown, but my suspicion is that the amount hasn't changed, it's just at the forefront because of the lack of daily commuters, so as a percentage of the people you see, it's higher.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 8:14 AM on October 21, 2022

I'm in Seattle, and might be able to help you network with people in marketing in a few different industries. Memail me if you want, and I'll send you my contact info.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 9:03 PM on September 21, 2022 marked best answer

Suicidal people can get through suicidal ideation without killing themselves. The way through it won't look the same for everyone. I will say that in my case, focusing on the good things to come was of absolutely no help.

I don't have a lot else to say about the situation you're in, but I would encourage you to reach out to the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, they have a page with resources for LGBTQ+. Even though you are not suicidal, they will have suggestions for… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 12:47 PM on September 12, 2022

The Victor Tavern at the Qualtrics Building (nee 2+U) (map, site) has an outdoor patio with ~20 seats. Google says it's a 16 minute walk from convention center.

It's in the middle of a large outdoor atrium underneath a hi-rise, and will be protected pretty well from the elements, except the cold. It's new, and I don't know whether they'll put out heaters, but they probably will.

I was there yesterday, and someone reserved the entire outdoor… [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 11:48 AM on August 26, 2022

I meant to add, the website has pictures. This one shows the patio (behind the tree). This one, from the building's site, shows the patio (without tables) and gives you an idea of the coverage.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gorgik at 11:54 AM on August 26, 2022